On this page, questions are answered regarding family.
"Luke 14:26 (NKJV) “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple."
It means that we should love them secondarily. Click to find a very clear quotation on this fact.
Sadly, "it would be better for some to do this than to remain at home to live upon the bounties provided by the parents, and at the same time trample upon all authority." Read the full response found in a Review and Herald Article in 1882.